Honestly, my first thought was, "Woah! Is it a year already?" It didn't feel like it, mostly because of the pandemic. This year feels like a blur for everyone, I think. So, let's get to it. How does it feel like to be married for a year now?
Well, I joke and say that since we were in a long-distance relationship for so long, this year was like a complete turnaround. Being 24x7 together was not how we envisioned our first year would be, but here we're now. When I say 'envisioned our lives' I say it in a zoomed out version of it because I don't think you realize how life will be completely different once you actually start living together.
There are small things you don't take into consideration, like actually sharing space with someone else, eating habits, and even sleeping schedule. It's these small adjustments and getting around it that I didn't account for when I fantasized about married life. Also, me being a girly girl, it was difficult for me to adjust to staying with 'a boy' and sharing my space, although I grew up with a younger brother.
All the fairytale moments aside, these practical things ensure a bit of a bumpy start, but it's great to see how we, as a couple, maneuver through it. The way we converse, adjust our daily schedule, try to figure out a daily routine for 'our' household (which is still WIP), and even the way we fight has changed. We say that we are trying to be adults together now, though we know we have a long way to go. We are complete opposites, and that's why we balance each other out. Growing old together now has a different meaning because you get to experience it each day.
What I have learned is that it's difficult to change the thought switch from what's important to me to what's important to us. My experience tells me that giving it some time helps. That's why it's apt to say, "Picture abhi baki hain mere dost. Yeh toh sirf trailer tha." It's a ride two people take together, and I hope ours would be a memorable one.
Love,
Rashmi B.
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